Random Thoughts

[EyesWideOpen]

I hate facial hair with a passion.

[Dukefrukem]

I don't think I could grow one and be comfortable at work.

[bac0n]

I don't think I could grow one and be comfortable at work.

I started working from home, so was pondering growing a Mo for MoVember.

Then I realized I hate sleeping on the couch and those looks I get from my wife.

[D_Davis]

My GF loves facial hair - the scratchier the better. She thinks its manly.

God bless her.

[Robby P]

I find facial hair way too feminine for me to even consider growing them.

This confuses me. You find the presence of hair on a person's face to be...feminine?

[Robby P]

I've been rocking a full beard for a while now and am starting to forget what I look like without one.

[Spinal]

This confuses me. You find the presence of hair on a person's face to be...feminine?

[MadMan]

I'm only growing facial hair out of laziness. I hate shaving since I can't properly grow facial hair. Probably will have to clean my face up at some point, though.

[Ezee E]

Love this.

[Mara]

There seems to be a trend in news media of either tracking down and confronting your bullies from childhood, or else admitting you were one and tracking down the people you wronged. Then, much apologizing and forgiveness.

And... I don't know. I'd like to think I'm a pretty relaxed and forgiving person, because I see that as a virtue and work hard at it. But if I saw the guy who made my seventh grade year hell, I think I'd still want to punch his face.

In fact, I'm pretty sure of it.

As recently as a few months ago I was flipping through my middle school yearbook and found where I had destroyed his picture by scratching it off maniacally. And I felt like I should laugh about that now, but instead I wanted to rip the page out and burn it, because I still hate him that much.

[D_Davis]

I'm going to be doing some live music for a play next year. Should be interesting. The play consists of 10 short, 1-act plays about time. I'll be a part of a band (playing bass) that plays in between the plays and during the final segment we'll be playing as a band in the play. Sounds fun - I've never done anything like this before.

[Qrazy]

There seems to be a trend in news media of either tracking down and confronting your bullies from childhood, or else admitting you were one and tracking down the people you wronged. Then, much apologizing and forgiveness.

And... I don't know. I'd like to think I'm a pretty relaxed and forgiving person, because I see that as a virtue and work hard at it. But if I saw the guy who made my seventh grade year hell, I think I'd still want to punch his face.

In fact, I'm pretty sure of it.

As recently as a few months ago I was flipping through my middle school yearbook and found where I had destroyed his picture by scratching it off maniacally. And I felt like I should laugh about that now, but instead I wanted to rip the page out and burn it, because I still hate him that much.

Plus to be honest I think a lot of bullies don't realize they're bullying. I know two guys who were real dicks to me in 5th grade spoke to me a few years later as if we had been close friends. I think guys in general have very different definitions of what friendship is all about.

[Mara]

Plus to be honest I think a lot of bullies don't realize they're bullying. I know two guys who were real dicks to me in 5th grade spoke to me a few years later as if we had been close friends. I think guys in general have very different definitions of what friendship is all about.

This was in 1992, when "sexual harassment" was barely in the public lexicon. (It was the year after the Clarence Thomas/Anita Hill thing, which was the first time I heard about it.)

I went to my mother, the school counselor, and the vice principal multiple times, both with and without my parents. I explained how this boy was physically hurting me and tormenting me, and you know what they recommended? Therapy. For me. As far as I know, the boy was never, ever spoken to.

I'm still pretty angry about that, too.

My friends at the time were even more horrible about it, but they were 12 years old, so I cut them some slack. The boy was very popular, and my friends considered any kind of sexual remark or touching from him as a mark of status. So, they accused me of making it up to try and convince people that he "liked" me.

When, in reality, the little shit was calling me a lesbian, twisting my nipples through my shirt and pushing me down the stairs. Asshole.

[Wryan]

This was in 1992, when "sexual harassment" was barely in the public lexicon. (It was the year after the Clarence Thomas/Anita Hill thing, which was the first time I heard about it.)

I went to my mother, the school counselor, and the vice principal multiple times, both with and without my parents. I explained how this boy was physically hurting me and tormenting me, and you know what they recommended? Therapy. For me. As far as I know, the boy was never, ever spoken to.

I'm still pretty angry about that, too.

My friends at the time were even more horrible about it, but they were 12 years old, so I cut them some slack. The boy was very popular, and my friends considered any kind of sexual remark or touching from him as a mark of status. So, they accused me of making it up to try and convince people that he "liked" me.

When, in reality, the little shit was calling me a lesbian, twisting my nipples through my shirt and pushing me down the stairs. Asshole.

If he's still such a wonderful person, I predict a jail sentence at some point, if he's not there already. What a douchecanoe. Sorry you went through that.

[Mara]

I actually got myself all riled up and just called my mother about it. She verified a few things I remembered, including the fact that the school did absolutely nothing, no matter how many times she called and met with them.

She also says I never told her about the extent of the harassment, which I believe. At that time, I was terribly embarrassed about anything sexual and probably bowdlerized what was happening when relating it. (She said I said he was mean, that he called me "fat" and "lesbian," and that he would "shove" me.)

I wish I had been more honest. But, I was twelve. You can't retroactively wish yourself maturity.

[MadMan]

That's pretty messed up, Mara. I consider myself lucky that I was never bullied, although there was one queen bitch type girl who really didn't like me for some reason. Last I heard she caught an STD, so I guess karma is a motherfucker.

PS: There was this girl who actually pushed me down the stairs in elementary school, but I have this odd feeling she really liked me, and just didn't know how to show it. Or something. It was weird.

[Mara]

In all fairness, I don't think he meant to push me down the stairs. He had this thing he would do where he would come up behind me and knee me really hard on the butt, so that I would stumble, and sometimes fall. I don't know why he thought this was hilarious, but he would totally crack up every time. Anyway, one time I was near the stairs and lost my balance.

Okay, done talking about this, I promise. I'm glad I called my mom, though. She's really good about talking me through things.

[Spun Lepton]

When I was in 9th grade, one small kid had two of his large lackeys hold me down, while the small kid literally climbed up a 6' wall and jumped on my back. I've had back problems ever since. If he were to approach me today for forgiveness, I'd probably beat him to a pulp.

EDIT: Oh, numerous other kids stood around and watched. Thus, I have no desire to go to any reunions.

[Dukefrukem]

Jesus, 9th grade? Isn't that being a Freshman in High School?

[Glass Co.]

Ugh, bullying memories are never fun. I luckily was never physically bullied, though I did receive some verbal at one time and it's not pleasant to think on. Shamefully however, I was also guilty one year of being the giver and not the receiver, and those memories are far harder to live down and forget. So...there might be some others out there who have guilt or regrets.

[Sycophant]

I was bullied a lot in elementary school, but can only remember one or two very vague instances. All I have is like an image of being held by this guy while another guy kicked me in the stomach, though I don't remember any of them

Did I suppress/block something? I'm thinking it must have really been pretty bad if I can't remember it. My mother insists it was really horrible for me.

[D_Davis]

I was never bullied in high school, but for some reason a group of skin heads (SHARPS) wanted to kick my ass when I was in college. Can't remember why, probably had something to do with a band or a girl. Luckily, I was friends with a bunch of Armenians who were part of some Armenian mafia and they "had my back." Nothing ever came of it, and when a mutual friend of all of ours killed himself, the lead skin head apologized to me and we became friends.

Sounds like a movie.

[Qrazy]

I was never bullied in high school, but for some reason a group of skin heads (SHARPS) wanted to kick my ass when I was in college. Can't remember why, probably had something to do with a band or a girl. Luckily, I was friends with a bunch of Armenians who were part of some Armenian mafia and they "had my back." Nothing ever came of it, and when a mutual friend of all of ours killed himself, the lead skin head apologized to me and we became friends.

Sounds like a movie.

Your life is Oscar bait.

[Spun Lepton]

Sounds like you lifted the plot from an episode of The Shield.

[D_Davis]

:lol: