So the movie's been out for months, right? It's safe for me to mention my favorite part from SPIDER-MAN: HOMECOMING? Because it's when Spider-Man got stuck in the Vulture's trap and started crying because he's scared.
When else do you typically see that in action movies, let alone superhero movies? In films, the rare instances that male action heroes are shown crying without it being framed as a joke, it's usually because they had just lost a loved one. Harry Osborn for Tobey Maguire's Spidey, Gwen Stacy for Andrew Garfield's Spidey, plus countless vigilantes whose cardboard wives or daughters were slaughtered to provide motive; but those are tears they shed to punctuate their care of others, as a socially acceptable extension of their heroic masculinity. It's crafting a performance of vulnerability based on the physical vulnerability of others, rather than their own.
Tom Holland's Spidey, however, was trapped under rubble and started crying because he was hurt and he didn't want to die but Iron Daddy and others weren't around to save him when he called for help. This is such a great image to paint with a superhero character. It's letting go of the nonsensical pretense that a man has to maintain bravery and present an idealized masculine front even when he's justifiably scared shitless, lest he be unqualified to be a male role model. This film not only doesn't shame Holland's Spider-Man for openly showing his anxiety, it shows him getting back up and immediately jumping into more dangerous situations, directly defying the notion that men who cry in frustration or fear are ineffectual.
Anyway, just thought I'd say all this because I stubbed my toe a few minutes ago and started crying and I believe that makes me very heroic.