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11-24-2009, 05:19 PM
number8

I'll be honest. I originally assumed you were talking about cell phone reception.
11-24-2009, 05:21 PM
Sycophant

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Originally Posted by megladon8

Is there any chance at reconciliation?

:sad:

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Originally Posted by number8

I'll be honest. I originally assumed you were talking about cell phone reception.

:lol:
11-24-2009, 05:24 PM
megladon8

Well, again, I'm sorry Sycophant.

I often find attempts at "friendly advice" at times like this can come across a little smug and patronizing, so I'll just leave it at that - sorry.
11-24-2009, 05:25 PM
Sycophant

Thanks, meg.
11-24-2009, 05:27 PM
Mara

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Originally Posted by megladon8

I often find attempts at "friendly advice" at times like this can come across a little smug and patronizing, so I'll just leave it at that - sorry.

How so?

And, Sycophant, I know things seem rough right now, but it will seem like nothing once you're older and wiser like me. Those of us who have really experienced life find your troubles quaint and amusing. I hope the thought of that helps at this difficult time.
11-24-2009, 05:38 PM
thefourthwall

So sorry to hear, Sycophant.
11-24-2009, 05:42 PM
Ezee E

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Originally Posted by Mara

How so?

I want to hear also, because I disagree. You might now want to talk about it at the time, but it ends up usually being a pretty good pick-me-up since you're getting support.
11-24-2009, 05:46 PM
number8

If a friend is sad, I usually skip the "grace period" and make fun of his/her situation immediately. You're better off getting that out of the way as soon as possible.

Of course, this has caused me to be labeled an asshole, but I think they secretly thank me. I think.
11-24-2009, 05:58 PM
Grouchy

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Originally Posted by number8

If a friend is sad, I usually skip the "grace period" and make fun of his/her situation immediately. You're better off getting that out of the way as soon as possible.

Of course, this has caused me to be labeled an asshole, but I think they secretly thank me. I think.

In addition, since there is nothing you can actually do to help them, at least you get them to chuckle a little bit.

Yeah, "friendly advice" is ridiculous. Most friends don't even want to hear your stupid opinion anyway.
11-24-2009, 06:03 PM
Adam

I find that when my friends are going through bad times, the best way to cheer them up is to barrage them with empty cliches like "There's plenty of fish in the sea" or "At least she died doing what she loved" or "It's all part of God's plan" or some such shit
11-24-2009, 06:06 PM
Spinal

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Originally Posted by Adam

I find that when my friends are going through bad times, the best way to cheer them up is to barrage them with empty cliches like "There's plenty of fish in the sea" or "At least she died doing what she loved" or "It's all part of God's plan" or some such shit

My favorite is "It wasn't meant to be." Determinism is such a great stress reliever.
11-24-2009, 06:28 PM
Wryan

"If only she had been looking at her feet instead of at the turtles she was juggling while she stepped in front of that cement truck, she'd still be Catholic today..."

Sorry Syco. I know you were happy, but you'll be happy again.
11-24-2009, 07:23 PM
Mara

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Originally Posted by Mara

I just have to focus. I know it will be easier to deal with now if I fight it and don't let myself get into a big sulk.

Oh, for the love of sweet holy potatoes. I'm not depressed, I have PMS.

DAMN YOU BODY, YOU TRICKED ME AGAIN!

EDIT: The tip-off was when I couldn't stop sobbing during Buffy reruns. Natalie, darling, learn to check a calendar.
11-24-2009, 07:46 PM
Qrazy

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Originally Posted by Spinal

My favorite is "It wasn't meant to be." Determinism is such a great stress reliever.

Or the tried and true... "Everything happens for a reason."
11-24-2009, 07:48 PM
Dead & Messed Up

My sister's been complaining about birthdays the past few years. Each year I tell her the same thing: "It was gonna happen sooner or later."
11-24-2009, 08:22 PM
Mara

Here, Sycophant.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v2...4465836177.jpg

I got you a cute.
11-24-2009, 08:26 PM
Kurosawa Fan

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Originally Posted by Dead & Messed Up

My sister's been complaining about birthdays the past few years. Each year I tell her the same thing: "It was gonna happen sooner or later."

It drives me nuts when people complain about their birthday. Would you rather not be here? Because that's the alternative.
11-24-2009, 08:40 PM
Sycophant

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Originally Posted by Mara

Here, Sycophant.

I got you a cute.

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!
11-24-2009, 08:40 PM
megladon8

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Originally Posted by Mara

How so?

Well everyone experiences things differently, so I often find giving advice for such a subjective situation (like dealing with a break-up) quite futile.

I'll use an unrelated example.

I have an anxiety disorder. I have it under control now, but when I was about 14/15 it was awful. It was crippling and I couldn't even leave the house because I was so worried about things (specifically catching ill).

My dad's advice was "well then just stop thinking about it." He meant it lovingly and was trying to be helpful, I know, but it was probably the most unhelpful advice I've ever received. If I could just "stop thinking about it", I probably would have figured that out by that point.

So even if the person in pain knows that the friend/family member's advice is meant lovingly and to be helpful, it can often just make things a little more frustrating because said person doesn't understand what YOU are experiencing.
11-24-2009, 08:45 PM
Dead & Messed Up

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Originally Posted by Kurosawa Fan

It drives me nuts when people complain about their birthday. Would you rather not be here? Because that's the alternative.

I understand why she's frustrated, though, because women have a limited amount of time in which to have children, she wants to have children, and she's in her late twenties. All I can do is offer my sympathy, which depreciates every year.

What can I say? Life's a bitch.
11-24-2009, 08:46 PM
Kurosawa Fan

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Originally Posted by Dead & Messed Up

I understand why she's frustrated, though, because women have a limited amount of time in which to have children, she wants to have children, and she's in her late twenties. All I can do is offer my sympathy, which depreciates every year.

What can I say? Life's a bitch.

Ah. Well that's completely different. My sister went through a similar issue, and finally had a baby last spring. She was 31.
11-24-2009, 09:25 PM
ledfloyd

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Originally Posted by megladon8

My dad's advice was "well then just stop thinking about it." He meant it lovingly and was trying to be helpful, I know, but it was probably the most unhelpful advice I've ever received. If I could just "stop thinking about it", I probably would have figured that out by that point.

i think this is every dad's advice on how to deal with anxiety disorders. and i agree with you. maddeningly frustrating.
11-24-2009, 09:58 PM
Spun Lepton

Just interviewed for a promotion at my job. *phew* Nerve-wracking.
11-24-2009, 10:07 PM
megladon8

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Originally Posted by Spun Lepton

Just interviewed for a promotion at my job. *phew* Nerve-wracking.

Awesome! Good luck!

Did you show them a little leg? ;)
11-24-2009, 10:21 PM
Spun Lepton

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Originally Posted by megladon8

Awesome! Good luck!

Did you show them a little leg? ;)

I flashed my moobs.

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